favoritezipper:

Don’t do that.

Should anyone want a summary of Damon, or a condensed, couple-minute summary of Damon and Elena’s relationship - right down to him threatening and physically abusing her to stop defending herself and her right to her own body - this would be the place to go.

Damon’s relationships with women are extremely consistent. Even with the vampire women he’s had relationships with, who physically overpower him, he attempts to force himself on (Katherine) or attack and physically cow (Rose) either before he knows or before he remembers they’re stronger. (Once a woman has shown she can fight him off, of course, he pretty much leaves right off, because he’s a bully, coward and abuser.)

One might even call it a clever process; he’s a very methodical and calculated abuser. He isolates them from their support, he mocks them from their pain and tells them - if he can, with magical coersion - that their suffering is hysteria, that what he did to them is trivial and meaningless and derides and sneers at them for trying to protect themselves, get away from him, or let themselves have a healthy emotional response to his abuse. He punishes them more and more viciously and violently for fighting back until eventually they give up; he gives copious explicit and implied threats, he is constantly sexually threatening and intrusive, wielding a very deliberate and conscious threat of rape (there’s really no other way to interpret Damon - an explicitly misogynistic abuser whose main theme in his relationships has been silencing and dehumanizing women - crowding in close to his rape victims and to women who repeatedly, again and again, ask him to leave them alone and stop making sexual advances, often physically hurting them in the process of invading their personal space) and, of course, he constantly, constantly, keeps telling them that what he does to them isn’t wrong, that it’s natural, that they’re crazy or “playing a game” when they ask, beg, scream for him to not hurt them any more.

The really tragic thing isn’t even that one after another, multiple female characters have been shown to break and bend under these pressures, with insufficient support systems and even their loved ones collaborating with and supporting him.

The really tragic thing is that the staff, producers and writers of the Vampire Diaries show support him.

I used to like Damon, later in season one/into season two when it appeared for a time that he was seriously searching for redemption. But then I realized that lol no he wasn’t. He may vaguely ‘want to be more human’ but he has never shown remorse for his rape and abuse of Caroline, and and has consistently lashed out in abuse after several episodes of appearing more sympathetic. That is the cycle of abuse and it is how abusers control people in real life and it’s disgusting that no one in the production notices or cares.

(Source: caroforbes)

to all of you

(Source: gviolets)